I am a magnet for trouble. I have lived my life shamelessly at times, not blinking once in situations where I should have had my eyes closed. I have always spoken my honest words, and beyond the people I care about, I have always told the truth, at times being vey direct and obtuse. Was I in the wrong for always speaking my mind? Mind me, I am known to be gentle with my words and smart with people. My truth might be hurtful; however, I have always believed in the need to be smart with words. If we say things carelessly, the wrong message might be understood and most of all, the wrong goal might be accomplished. My goal is not to shame people, nor to make them feel bad about the opinions or choices. My ultimate purpose to help people navigate their emotions and understand better themselves. If we were all to live without ever admitting our faults, that would be a crazy world. I do also understand that some people are just beyond help, but as long as I can breathe and see the world, I will always try my best to help even those that I find hopeless. I am often criticized by people close to me for being heartless, but truth is, I am everything opposite of that. I disagree with being dishonest with opinions for the sake of pleasing people. This is the exact problem, which is being spoken very often these days, enabling bad conducts. If we enable these wrong things to happen, then we are part of the problem as we are letting bad behaviors go. People will often say things that are just plain wrong, they will talk behind people’s back and they will demonstrate real hate towards others with reasons they believe justify their behaviors. I chose to be an activist in this field. I won’t enable bad behaviors and especially, I won’t tolerate bad people. However, I chose the right words to fix them. I tell them my displeasure of their actions and I try to formulate this in the most honest way possible while not demonstrating any negative emotion. Like I stated earlier, my goal is to help, not to put down and push away that person even further. I find that people are like this in the first place because they are pushed into corners where they resent people for not liking them. If I speak my truth, I hope that people understand that I value them enough to be transparent with them. I also let them feel like I don’t judge them based on what has transpired, rather I feel compelled to help because I care about them. Never will I betray a friendship to feel better, or to prove a point. I don’t need to prove a point since it doesn’t concern me and since they aren’t my actions to approve or disprove in the first place. My point is, our pride shouldn’t overtake the intent of helping. Connecting to people often revolves around one’s ability to understand people even at crossroads. It is always easy to judge but it is much harder to understand what one is going through, which justifies their behavior. In my perfect world of mine, they are no bad people, just bad places. Even the most unjust and heinous of people have reasons to believe they are right. And then, it’s often more about showing them a different path rather than just pointing at their wrongs. I can call out all the problems in this world, but if I can’t show real solutions on how to fix those, I am just complaining and what good does that do. I live in my world and I believe I can make a difference by being better than myself. Putting pride aside, I can truly show that the world is more than a place filled with judgment and resent. People don’t want to feel alone, and I don’t blame them and if the entire world just stands in their way, how can one not feel alone. The mind is a complex thing, and emotions are based on more than simple thoughts. They are based on a lot of experience, time, life and events which define people at later moments. To build a better world, we must understand that it will take more than just pointing out flaws. We must live this life together, and build each other up, and perhaps all this hate and resent will dry out over time. Be better than yourself.