I speak often about finding the perfect balance in life in regards to what we need and what we want. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to truly know and often we think we know until we realise something has happened because we, in reality, didn’t know. I see humans as composed of three components, the body, the mind and the soul. I feel like our body is programmed to like, to be a certain way and to have certain needs we don’t necessarily understand or ever will. The mind is what processes what we feel and we feel with our body many things. Our mind processes all the information that comes to it, and it uses the soul to assess what is right and what isn’t. The soul, as stated, is the main component of it all, it’s what makes us who we are, and it is what differentiate my action from yours when we live the same event. There is no right or wrong way to do things, nor a right or wrong way to think, to a certain extent, all of it is right in my mind. We all have reasons to do things, no matter how messed up it seems to someone else, and everyone else has their own skewed actions that seem messed up to me. I, however, don’t judge and I think even the worst criminals have their reasons on why they are there. Does it mean I agree on it and I think it’s alright? NO! But there is a certain aspect where I can’t be judging someone without truly understanding what someone is feeling and from where did they come. It could be that someone only knows violence and that nothing else is clear in their mind. Perhaps that same person believes through his experience that the world doesn’t deserve to live. I find it messed up that even the worst of actions sometimes could be justified, not as in a right or wrong thing, rather what has brought that person to commit such act. As I age and mature, I find myself more and more connected with these three spheres of beings. I seem to understand them more to the extent that I feel like it’s almost meant to happen in time. I remember wanting so much when I was younger and life slowly bringing me, through pain and suffering I have caused on my own, to understand there can be so much we can want to so much we truly need. If we focus too much on what we want, we starts understanding that maybe we don’t want all that, that maybe it’s too much for what we need truly. I find it that it’s like oxygen. We want oxygen and need oxygen but put too much, and we suffocate, put too little in your air and we suffocate as well. Gaining too much of what we want can make you suffocate with all that it brings in consequence. So how do we know where to draw the line? In my experience, you go to learn how to not stress over things. When you want too much, chances are you will be disappointing yourself and you will start slowly stressing yourself out. Therefore have a breath, and try to relax in ways that doesn’t consume your mind with what you want compared to what you need. You will find yourself often understanding what you need when you are in a peace of mind with what you want and from there, a line will form itself over time. I find that like all things, you got to develop habits in life for it to truly have any effects in life. So once you start defocusing on what you want, you will start seeing what you need and from there, you can develop habits that will better reflect your soul. Your soul, after all, is who you are and what makes you different from me and everyone else. In my perspective, the soul doesn’t reflect much on anything. It just is and no matter what you do and how you feel, you will always stay the same deep inside. In time, we will all know where we need to be, for now, the trick is to be patient and to relax so we can better focus on the real things in life.

S-MAN